Being A Lover

A short sampling of ways to leave your be a lover: You just slip out the back, Jack (No need to make a scene – being a lover is not always about you.) Make a new plan, Stan (Be flexible! … Continued

Sharing Your Joy

Back in the Pleistocene, circa 2001, I was dating this one. Her name is Laura Jean; if you read Blue Like Jazz, she is Chapter 5. One day, in between clumsy courtship, whimsical adventures, and discussions of the genius of Kurt … Continued

Clear floor, clear mind

I think that if you told me 15 years ago that I would be finding comfort and calm in cleaning up other people’s mess, I would have called you crazy. And yet, here I am, covered in dust and happy … Continued

An upside to Jealousy

Jealousy is a funny thing. It can creep up on a person in sneaky and unexpected ways, but it doesn’t always have to be a bad thing when it shows up. Carlos and I have been apart for a month. … Continued

Friday I’m In Love

Friday is my favorite day. Today, it was sunny, although not warm. I swam ten (10!) laps.* Rockford put himself down for a nap! I get to see my husband so soon! We ate lazy dinner and took Rock on … Continued

You never can tell

Every single one of us carries some kind of front out into the world. It’s necessary; to go out with no barrier between your tender insides and the vicissitudes of the everyday world is no way to live. There is … Continued

50 Ways, 14 Days

Good Afternoon, oh loveliest of people! Forty six days ago, Carlos and I told you that we are embarking on (yet another) grand adventure, one that is ultimately all about you. In case you’re just joining us, Carlos and I … Continued

Love is weird, and that’s OK

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Love is really hard for me some times. In my “smart brain,” I know that it’s a two-way street, and that there’s a strong likelihood that the people I love also love me. I have been told that I am … Continued

Cider-braised Pork Butt

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You guys! I cooked a food! And it was delicious! And perhaps even more exciting/scandalous/out-of-the-ordinary, I started with a recipe and actually followed it. Delicious pork butt, generously salted and peppered, pre-trussing. I found it much harder to photograph the … Continued

The Depression To-Do List

Depression is like having a to-do list where almost everything is marked “Lowest Priority.” It’s not so much that you don’t want to fix things so much as you just don’t ever get around to doing anything because literally everything … Continued