8,500 Miles to Love

50love The Journey So Far

We have traveled 8,500 miles in Nessy (the Chinook van). This has included 18 cities. We have almost 200 online survey participants, 20-group discussions, about a dozen in-person interviews, and a handful of online interviews.

Along the way we have had surprise family struggles and lots of very frank discussions with people. One of the most interesting finds was this:

For residents of southern Michigan and northern Ohio that should be familiar. His name is Carlo F. Sommers and he lead a crusade for love. That was a major happy moment for me during this process so far.

One sad part for me so far is realizing that people are actually quite scared to talk about love. Most people we have met don’t want to talk about their personal feelings. They all start, and some never leave the space of, talking about what people believe. There has been a pervasive fear that they might give the wrong answer.

I can’t say that I have heard anyone say something that is categorically wrong; there are definitely trends that can be seen in what individuals see as the most important thing. Openness has been a big theme, understanding has been a big theme, and communication has been a big theme.

Here is my challenge to you: Write down what you think love is and read it out loud. Ask yourself if you really believe the words you are saying, and what is the most frightening part of enacting your beliefs.

2 thoughts on “8,500 Miles to Love”

  1. Defining love is so subjective–and isn’t that the whole point? Love to me is lack of limits, lack of condemnation, lack of controlling motives. Some people are looking for unconditional love. I feel that humans are incapable of this, that only a poser greater than myself is capable of this realm of love.

    1. I don’t know know if the definition is all that subjective. What I have seen is that the way people enact love is subjective, but their feeling, or state of love, is surprisingly unified. I have seen a common problem of recognizing when love others are in a state of love, but have trouble articulating how people enact love toward them personally.

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