Love In Rebirth

Most of 2013 has been about rebirth for me and my wife. We revisited old places in our life and set out to establish a place that is wholly ours. After thousands of miles of travel, difficult events, deep discussions … Continued

Love Means Helping

When I say that love means helping I don’t mean acts of service. Acts of service are easy. The object of your affection off-handedly mentions something wistfully, or pointedly, and you go out and take care of business. Simple, right? … Continued

Love is a Drug

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Love (particularly the romantic variety) acts the same as a drug cocktail. Just like cocaine it is going to introduce you to a huge spike in dopamine and norepinephrine, just like Ketamine it is going to numb your pain, cause … Continued

Philosophy of Love

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Up to this point we have been avoiding talking about love on the blog from the standpoint of philosophy. Today I am going to correct that and walk though the academic side of love. The first thing that I want … Continued

The Real Cost of Love

It is expensive   When people talk about love it is often in poetry and songs. I do it a lot through writing lately. So, I am going to write about how the songs are lies: you can buy me … Continued

For the Men I Miss During the Holidays

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Today is a turning point for me. But, not a big one. It happens every year. I am on the 30-day countdown to my birthday. In spite of my general excitement about having an excuse to have a party and … Continued

8,500 Miles to Love

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We have traveled 8,500 miles in Nessy (the Chinook van). This has included 18 cities. We have almost 200 online survey participants, 20-group discussions, about a dozen in-person interviews, and a handful of online interviews. Along the way we have … Continued

Showing Love For Your Community

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One of the looming questions for us in raising our cute beige baby is “how should we define the community he is part of?” I know there is going to be that weird moment when he asks about the very … Continued

Making the Difficult Decisions With Friends

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In my mind there is one really standout moment where I had to make a very difficult choice about how to support one of my friends. I had to decide which of two bad decisions was most supportive of what … Continued