Sanctuary

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Winter is coming to Columbus, Ohio, one chilly evening at a time. Last year was terrible (I am told; it was exactly what I expected) and this year is supposed to be similar. For a pair of desert-bred, west-coast softies, … Continued

Love and Lies

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I love my country, warts and all. One of the these warts is voting. As I see it there are 3 fundamental lies about voting that pervade the mainstream: It doesn’t matter who you vote for because all politicians are … Continued

Raising a Free-Range Child

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In response to my current Toddlerist (toddler+terrorist) and in preparation for our new baby (Nibbler) I am re-reading The Art Of War. It is full of great parenting advice. The parts that are of particular interest to me today are: … Continued

The Only Constant Is Change

Once upon a time, Carlos and I were just two old friends who were having some fun dating, soaking in the sweaty summer fun. It was the closest to “normal” our relationship has probably ever been – on our third … Continued

Attitude Adjustments

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Hello, my name is Rose, and I have Impostor Syndrome. This is not a new experience for me, nor a surprise for many of you. Lots of us experience it! It’s another of those mental phenomena that seem easy to … Continued

Pain Is Better Than Poison

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Overnight on Monday, something happened on CNN that got a lot of people up in arms. A white woman anchoring a broadcast asked, “Why are they using tear gas, and not water cannons?” Given the shameful history of water cannon … Continued

Ferguson is Enough

Over this past weekend, something happened in Ferguson, Missouri that has been happening around this country. It was something atrocious, horrifying, and worst of all, mundane. On Saturday afternoon, a Black man named Michael Brown was killed by the police. … Continued

Faith and Perseverance

Way back in 2009, when Rose and I decided to get married, we hadn’t been dating long. This meant that even by the time we were a couple years in, we still had some kinks to work out of our … Continued

In Defense of Rules in Relationships

Recently there has been a renewed discussion among poly bloggers about the place of rules within relationships. Wesley Fenza has written a fairly reasonable take on the role rules (or agreements) play in intimate relationships. His premise is that we … Continued

On Why We Have Been Gone

  Let’s start with the elephant in the room: Part of the reason that we have been quiet here lately (me especially) is because of the unfortunate events of last year. I am hurt and angry, still, and fundamentally offended … Continued